what was your biggest lie (dont answer if you think its personal)

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I lie often. I'm not ashamed to say so. I've lied about being busy when instead I didn't want to hurt someone's feelings that I didn't want to spend time with them. I've lied about liking someone's meal when instead I found it hard to swallow. I've given out fake smiles often when I'm not in the mood. I've lied about feeling fine, when instead I'd rather go home and cry. I happen to think that lying is fundamental of politeness and a pillar of good behavior.

I am not advocating lying to cheat, steal or hurt others. There is a big difference. Mostly, I lie to be polite.

The biggest lie I've ever told was to myself. It is a lie of pretending to be happy with life. It is a lie that my own needs don't matter. It is a lie that I've lived with with most of my life. It started with my mother who passed onto to me to please others first; forsaking myself. It started with my father who taught me that sex was dirty and bad. It started with religion that stated that faith was more important than thinking for myself.

It progressed to my husband, who I was married to for twenty long years. During those years, I put my life on hold to raise the children, forsaking a career and self fulfillment so that I could make him happy; never imagining he would divorce me for another.

What I've learned is that, in this life, we must all be self driven to please ourselves first and foremost. It's in my best self interest to raise my children with as much love and support as I can so that they can become happy independent adults. Otherwise, I'll be supporting them financially for years. It's in my best self interest to help others so that they will help me. My point is that is possible to be selfish yet care for others as well.

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